This morning started dark and super early after a few hours sleep to get to Jacksonville to take on the Jacksonville Baldwin Rail Trail at 7AM.
Today seemed to be the day that everyone else slept in 😛 I met Coach Ant there and then Darth Gable and Super Pi joined us, and we headed out. We kept losing the guys and going back for them, so we decided to go ahead and just stick together. Pi and I knocked out about 13 miles, and it was a great way to start the day 🙂 My favorite part of the skate was when Gable kept up, lyric to lyric, with Snoop Dog that was playing from my little portable speaker 😀
After the trail, we went back to the convention center for the final day of WFTDA Divisionals and took some goofy pictures between bouts 🙂
I found Smash with Tampa, and she said hell yeah she goes by Smash, she has it tattooed on her! I said, “OH! ME TOO!!!” So, naturally we had to take a picture of our Smash tattoos 😀
Today was also interesting in that there was a *LOT* of emotion going around, and a bunch of people had come to me asking for perspective or just some comfort.
The advice we give is that which we need the most, and I reminded them that we never have to “get over” something; rather, we learn to live with it. The more we try to change something, the more it persists, and the more it exacerbates the problem.
If we can just acknowledge that there’s something there and we can just allow it to be without needing to change it, define, beat ourselves over it or expect a specific outcome (“I’ll be happy when…”), then we can just *be*. No judgement.
So, if we feel sad, angry, rejected, fundamentally flawed, insecure, needy, damaged, hurt, or whatever unpleasant feeling, then we should feel those things and have it out. It doesn’t just go away, we learn to continue on, and the pain is less intense. Wounds become scars, and we adapt.
But, most importantly, we keep going 🙂
Speaking of going and going, we’re on Day 20 of the 30 Days of Skating Challenge, and I have to point out how amazingly Anthony did – he hit 300 miles in 20 days!! He hit his goal 10 days ahead of schedule. So impressive! It’s been amazing watching his miles rack up, and I was SO hoping today would be the big day!
300 miles in 20 Days – a remarkable feat! Congratulations, Anthony!
Paul, another one of our challengers, competed in an inline skate marathon today!
And we have posts from one end of the globe to the other, from a Hawaiian morning skate to bout day greatness!
One of the main reasons I started this challenge is because frankly, I wanted to see people come together in the name of something we love, and to encourage and uplift each other to do it every day. So often in every facet of our life we’re being pulled into so many directions, comparing and competing incessantly. I wanted us to us do this for the sake of doing it, to make the challenge our own, to compete with ourselves to grow and find the support of others doing the same.
So often we’re being pulled into directions, seemingly separating us from groups, instilling thoughts of preference. “I like this better, I like those people better, it was worse when blah blah blah”.
Instead of focus on the things we don’t like, let’s do something good about it. Instead of talk about things, let’s take action.
Instead of tear each other down, let’s build each other up.
Instead of feel bad for ourselves, let’s make others feel better.
Instead of seek attention, let’s give it.
We do so much explaining about things other people should do, how other people should act, explaining why we do things…so much explaining.
How about we just *do*?
If we expect people to live in our world, we have to live a bit in theirs. If we want to get into people’s hearts, we’ve got to open ours. If we want love, we have to give it – and first to ourselves.
I learned the best way for me to heal was to take action and make choices to take good care of myself. Whatever we’re going through, we’re not alone, and it’s good to share that stuff. Most of all though, it’s good to do something, to take action, to continue on. No “getting over” it no “moving on”, just living.
Share the experience and open others in, and watch how that void becomes something so much more. It becomes part of our story, and there will always be at least one person who can relate.
To create an event and openly call it a challenge outright says that this will be difficult, but we’re not alone and we’ve got each others backs until whatever end.
No competition, just encouragement.
It take character to do that, to lift people up from a real place of wanting to see them succeed. Sometimes they surpass us. You know what? That’s fantastic! And it’s *their* journey. We all have our own.
Just encouragement <3