Hi there 🙂
These posts are designed to be helpful and informative, and they are inspired by qualitative data has been provided to me. Now, as always, I hope that it’s clear that your input and feedback is most welcome ♥ Feel free to share suggestions, feedback and send requests!
Every now and then, I’ll get an unsubscribe request, and I honor it. I also re-read that person’s input from the survey (feel free to fill it out again if your goals have shifted, or if you’ve joined this newsletter before completing the survey) and then ask them if they’d share with me if their goals have changed, why they’re unsubscribing, and if there’s anything specifically they’re looking for.
The common answer I get is this:
I know you put a lot of time and care into these messages, and honestly I’m not able to invest the time to read them.
Most of them also end with this:
Keep me in mind for future newsletters.
Recently, I also got this reply:
These aren’t what I’m looking for. There’s this trend in mindfulness and I find it annoying.
Ah, okay. Yep, that’s a tough thing. I have a response, but Dr. Brené Brown puts it fantastically here in her TED Talk “The Power of Vulnerability”:
(this is Dr. Brown’s initial conversation with her own therapist)
“Here’s the thing – I’m struggling. I have a vulnerability issue. I know that vulnerability is the core of shame, and fear, and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it’s also the birthplace of joy, creativity, belonging, love…and I think I have a problem. I need some help. But here’s the thing – no family stuff, no childhood shit – I just need some strategies.
“So she goes like this” (nods). Then I said, “it’s bad, right?”
“It’s neither good nor bad. It just is what it is.”
“Oh my God, this is going to SUCK!”
Mindfulness is key.
Awareness strategies work; they work empirically, and they work personally. It would be good and well for me to just say, “hey so I read this thing, you should do it” but that makes me an evangelist. I much prefer being a witness.
It also helps that Dr. Brown, a qualitative research-storyteller, backs me up here (or rather, I discovered her after she had spoken about it…so this may be a chicken-or-egg first conundrum, but that’s irrelevant!).
Awareness really is the key to taking the next step – acceptance.
Once we’ve taken those steps, we can then take positive, sustainable action that has lasting results. Sure, we can take action first, but I promise, it won’t last. If we work out like the devil is chasing us without first confronting the devil, how will we ever outrun it? After all, that devil – our “problem” – isn’t chasing us. It’s on a fucking tether, and we’re pulling it with us wherever we go.
If you want to take action right away, great! As a coach, I’d love to help with that. Get a hold of me and we’ll talk. I’ll give you my hourly rate and I’ll get you started on a success program.
If you want results, then stick with me, and keep reading these newsletters.
That’s like the most antithetical business strategy in the galaxy, but it’s what’s best in my heart. I live to serve. I want to be of service to you.
Here’s a little secret – what you’re getting here is precisely what I charge my clients for. The difference is they actually invest the time and take the action steps because they’ve made an investment. We value things that we’ve put value into. Once we’ve put some skin in the game, we feel compelled to do the work we’re told to do. This isn’t universally applicable to all, but it’s applicable for everyone who has been successful. For folks that have worked with me and don’t take action, drop them and refund their money. I don’t want their business. I want them to be successful, and if I can’t help them get that, I want them to invest in something that WILL help them.
So my friend, right now you’re investing in this with your time. It’s your time that is your most valuable asset. Ask yourself this – “how much do I get paid per hour?” Realize that the time you’re investing into anything is worth at least the same if not MORE than your hourly rate. So, if these messages take too much time (I’m at 900 words now, so that takes me about three and a half minutes to read), then ask yourself this – what am I doing with my time that is actually helping me? And I don’t mean in an escapism-type, band-aid fix type of way like reality television or reading celebrity gossip. I mean in something that’s actually benefiting you in mind, body and spirit. Are you investing that into yourself? Or are you numbing, escaping, running and avoiding?
Are you willing to live whole-heartedly? Do you see yourself as the one accomplishing your goals, or are they just lofty dreams that you love to fantasize about and just don’t really see happening in YOUR life?
What are you willing to admit and accept today? You don’t have to change it; I’m not asking for you to take any action. I’m simply asking if you’re willing to just acknowledge it.
If you’ve read this much so far, then I hope you’ve thanked yourself for taking the time to invest in YOU. You’ve opted out of the dreck/spam and read something of value instead.
Way to go! That’s my dawg!!
AWE! I talk about dogs in today’s podcast episode, too!
Wishing you only the best, in love and success,