“I’m not good enough.”
“There’s no way I’ll ever be able to finish this.”
“How will I recover from this?”
“I’m no good at this, I’m giving up.”
“This is too hard.”
Have you ever felt this way? Have you ever said any (or all) of these things?
Guess what – these are the feelings and sentiments of some of the most successful people in history.
Successful people aren’t all born that way. Success isn’t given, and it’s certainly not easy to come by.
No, success is earned by those who work hard for it, who get up every time they fall, make mistakes, and experience setbacks and heartbreaks. They try, they fail, and they get right back up and try again.
People who have innate ability and natural talent tend to get surpassed by those who have something even better than talent – true grit, passion and the desire to grow.
“The naturals, carried away with their superiority, don’t learn how to work hard or how to cope with setbacks.” – Carol Dweck
Yes, life is hard.
Sometimes, life can kick us down so hard that it may feel like we’ll NEVER get back up.
Life can really suck sometimes. Like…REALLY suck the life out of us.
When it gets that tough, when it seems like all is lost and our hearts are broken and there’s no way we’ll get back up again, along comes the miracle of support. Our tribe comes to our rescue and resuscitates us.
It may take a miracle, which is why it’s important to be proactive and actually give a shit about people, be a decent person, and surround ourselves with people who want to do great things in this world ♥
It comes back around.
With a little help from our friends, we find that we do have the strength to stand again after all.
Then, we live to fight another day!
AND THEN!! The best part!
We get our happy ending ♥
Look, it’s not easy. Anything worth having will not come easily. No great story is without major struggle. People with loads of scars have the best stories, and those who have struggled a LOT are the ones that give the best counsel.
Failure tends to precede success.
So, whatever the current struggle is, let’s just accept that it’s all part of the journey. Where we are today is but a piece of the puzzle, a brick in the road, a branch on the path. There’s so much more going on than just that struggle. There are forces pulling us in another direction – FORWARD.
We will get there. We CAN progress. We have everything that we need to get us where we need to go – the will, the heart, the passion and the vision to do it and to see it through.
I know how hard it is to recover from a veritable ass-kicking. Last week, I just could not get up after a setback. I felt like a failure. Though I know the difference between failing (guilt) and being a failure (shame), I could’t help but familiarize with the shameful facet of failure.
I’ve failed lots. I know what giving up feels like…but then I find myself still trying, still believing that things will get better. Just when I feel like I’ve lost it all and that I should stop trying…something happens. Someone comes along to offer support, encouragement, opportunities, and the gifts of empathy and compassion. Just when I feel like I should stop, I get feedback from someone or a random call or message about how helpful my videos are, and how impactful these posts and newsletters are.
Just when I feel like I have nothing left, I feel inspired to write again, and to reach out to people.
My friend, it’s truly not over unless we shut our eyes, totally withdraw, and isolate ourselves from everyone and everything. When we allow ourselves to be seen, when we accept that we have flaws, and when we open up about our challenges, it’s AMAZING what happens when we lean into the discomfort of vulnerability and experience it instead of jumping to the “feel good” and happy shit.
Strength comes to us from the people we have empowered. The good we put out comes right back to us.
This sounds good and dandy, right? It’s uncommon “common sense”. We’re greedy bastards; self-involved and self-centered beings. We want and want and want…and yet how much are we actually giving?
Are we fixed on old ways of thinking, or are we receptive to growth? Do we have the balls to actually self-analyze and hold ourselves accountable for the shit going on in our lives?
We never get better if we keep doing the same thing, and especially if we still think the same way.
I LOVE hearing the incessant complaints of people who never EVER progress in their lives, who are victims of their past, their families, and their circumstances. Those bad examples remind me that I’m on the right track. Although it may not look like success on the outside, I know I’m practicing the principles of highly successful people. Carol Dweck, Stephen Covey and Napoleon Hill all discuss the characteristics of successful people. It has nothing to do with what’s going on externally.
It’s all about how receptive one is to growth.
Every single one of us has the potential to do something great with our lives, and yet we get fixated on what’s happening on the surface. So much happens underneath and inside. We must root to rise, we must strive in darkness and struggle to learn how to stand tall, ready to face the next challenge.
When life gets tough, let’s roll up our sleeves, rub our hands together, smack our lips and tell ourselves that we got this. Let’s show up and tell life that we’re ready and willing to face the next challenge, knowing that it will give us priceless skills and abilities.
Let’s raise our heads, roll our shoulders back and press our chest out to show our strength.
Most of all, let’s press on ♥
Keep it up, you powerhouse, you!